Sign up FAST! Login

Try a Little Tenderness - NYTimes.com


Stashed in:

To save this post, select a stash from drop-down menu or type in a new one:

Conceptually considered, tenderness has always been regarded as a blossom of love. It is in the context of being hit by cupid’s arrow and smitten that many of us first experience that dizzying, enchanted feeling. Kant insisted that inasmuch as love is a moral duty, it cannot be a feeling because it is not within our power to command emotions. The great Scottish philosopher, David Hume, who taught that sympathy is the taproot of our moral sense and that reason ought to be the slave of the passions, had some kind words for the soft feelings of friendship, but more or less left tenderness out in the hall.

You May Also Like: