The Art of Presence - NYTimes.com
Juliana Silveira stashed this in Interesting news
"Grant the sufferers the dignity of their own process. Let them define meaning. Sit simply through moments of pain and uncomfortable darkness. Be practical, mundane, simple and direct."
I liked the first part of that paragraph:
I’d say that what these experiences call for is a sort of passive activism. We have a tendency, especially in an achievement-oriented culture, to want to solve problems and repair brokenness — to propose, plan, fix, interpret, explain and solve. But what seems to be needed here is the art of presence — to perform tasks without trying to control or alter the elemental situation.
It is so hard to listen without suggesting or talking. But for many situations that is the best thing to do.
"Let them define meaning." <--- I'm still figuring out what this means.