12 Things You Should Start Making Time for Again
1. Taking better care of yourself.
You are like a building with stained-glass windows. You always shimmer and shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in your true magnificence is revealed only if there is light shining from within you. It’s your duty, and yours alone, to keep your inner light shining bright. So learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you. Loving yourself does not mean being selfish and narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather, it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart and mind – a guest worthy of extra care and respect. Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it. That’s a great start.
10. Cooking real, wholesome food.
Your body is a temple. You are what you eat. So do not eat processed food, fast food, and all the filth the big processed food companies try to pass off as “healthy.” Most foods that you don’t have to prepare manually statically cause sickness, cancer, and disease. Do they taste good? Sure. It’s all well-seasoned, pre-packaged poison. This is why so many people are sick – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually – because of being hooked to the taste of poison, instead of being hooked on the truth and to real foods that heal and provide you with good health and wellness. (Read Super Immunity.)
6. Listening to others without judgment.
Be selective in your battles. Let go a bit and just listen and smile. Most of the time being peaceful and compassionate is far better than being right – especially right off the bat in a new conversation. So keep in mind that wisdom is not just knowing when to stand up and speak, but when to sit down and listen. It’s about knowing that your ears will never get you in trouble, and will always give you a chance to learn something new.
11. Cutting yourself enough slack to make mistakes.
The greatest mistake many of us make is living in constant fear that we will make one. Life is just too short to berate yourself for making mistakes. After all, mistakes in life are as certain as sunsets and detours. So why exert energy avoiding the unavoidable? The truth is you aren’t really free until you give yourself the freedom to make mistakes. So liberate yourself! Cut yourself some slack. Shift your energy from protecting yourself from failure to squeezing more living out of your life.
5. Initiating long, intimate conversations with loved ones.
Death is a real challenge of life. It tells us not to waste time. It tells us to make time right now to tell each other that we love each other. It tells us to stop texting and tweeting every second and actually open the floodgates to real, long, heartfelt conversations with the people we love. Relationships flourish when two people are able to share their innermost feelings and thoughts about themselves and each other. To be fully heard by someone, in raw form, and be adored anyhow, is what true love is. Making time for these deep connections and conversations is worth it. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
12. Celebrating the small victories of each day.
Sure, not every day will be good, but there will always be something good about every day. Notice these things and celebrate them. Train your mind to see what’s right. Positivity is a choice. The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. When you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change how you think about it. And the first step is celebrating what you can – the lessons, the laughs, and love you experienced along the way.
Hi Rich, I like everything on the list, but I always prefer smaller lists, one or two items--three at the max--so I can ignore one or two things while I focus on learning to do one thing well. I'm not against multi-tasking, I just figure machines can do it better and at less cost.
I haven't yet figured out why there are so many expanding variety of posts and blogs online having a number in their title and being written in a list format? Even though I enjoy scanning these posts from time to time for something, it's not like I'm looking for anything in particular. I guess it's more like catering to my curiosity online the same as if I'm ambling down a beach picking up seashells and seeing if they're interesting enough to keep. So perhaps this list-itis fashion is more about the idea of grabbing people's attention and offering them access to something useful quickly? I dunno.
It's always interesting to see trends rise and fall...
Rob, I hear ya. I see a lot of these lists as I peruse the blogosphere. Some people like writing their blogs in this fashion, and that's just their style. Others stay away from it. Every once in a while I find one that has some poignant thoughts - even if it's a little long. I find myself reading the headings of each item in a few seconds and then drilling down deeper if they speak to me. I guess I could describe my reading style as mental Jeet Kun Do -- take in what is useful and discard what is not.