How to Deal With Other People's Rude Behavior - WSJ
Tina Miller, MA,CFLE stashed this in peace skills
Certain variables can make social allergens worse. How often does the person repeat the behavior? Have you had a conversation about it and asked him or her to adjust? Did the person try to stop, or is he or she incapable of doing so?When they persist, the allergy gets worse, and the whole thing eventually can start to symbolize something larger that is wrong in the relationship.It's one thing if your husband is messy and leaves his smelly socks on the kitchen floor after jogging. If the socks come to stand for how uncared-for, unheard and unloved you feel, it's something else completely.When allergens take on serious, symbolic overtones, it is often a sign that there aren't enough positive things happening in the relationship to buffer the negative. Often, professional help is required.