Ivy League Schools Are Overrated. Send Your Kids Elsewhere.
J Thoendell stashed this in Science
Before he started college, he spent most of his time reading and writing short stories. Three years later, he’s painfully insecure, worrying about things my public-educated friends don’t give a second thought to, like the stigma of eating lunch alone and whether he’s “networking” enough. No one but me knows he fakes being well-read by thumbing through the first and last chapters of any book he hears about and obsessively devouring reviews in lieu of the real thing. He does this not because he’s incurious, but because there’s a bigger social reward for being able to talk about books than for actually reading them.
He's also talking about Stanford. Any elite education and lifestyle, really.
When I speak of elite education, I mean prestigious institutions like Harvard or Stanford or Williams as well as the larger universe of second-tier selective schools, but I also mean everything that leads up to and away from them—the private and affluent public high schools; the ever-growing industry of tutors and consultants and test-prep courses; the admissions process itself, squatting like a dragon at the entrance to adulthood; the brand-name graduate schools and employment opportunities that come after the B.A.; and the parents and communities, largely upper-middle class, who push their children into the maw of this machine. In short, our entire system of elite education.
Very interesting article. I was a psychologist at the counseling center at Penn, and definitely saw the anxiety and insecurity in the students. In fact, some of them felt bad about being at Penn, because it meant they weren't good enough for Harvard or Yale! I also witnessed a lot of the entitlement too. Not pretty.
So we have to teach kids that it matters more how you apply yourself than where you go.