Next time someone says, I've never seen women get harassed
Christina Wodtke stashed this in hope
I think when women joke that men are clueless, they mean stuff like this: a basic lack of observational awareness of things that don't directly affect them at the moment, especially trivial-seeming social interactions. Women really ARE so much more attuned to this type of thing -- for good reason, they are the "prey" and therefore need to be alert -- but it can be frustrating to ask a male companion something like "That man was catcalling that woman right in the middle of the street, how could you not see it?!?!?" or "That guy at the bar trying to buy shots for girls, doesn't he give you a creepy vibe?" and find out that he simply did not notice it at all.
One other factor that I've recently become aware of is the "male veil of privacy". I think men are conditioned to give other men visual and aural "space" when they happen to notice that the guy is hitting on a woman, don't step on another fella's shine and so forth. You can watch men in public places and they literally will avoid looking at women that seem to be with other men -- EVEN IF that other man has just walked up to the woman for the first time.