Love Is Not Enough
Geege Schuman stashed this in Love is Chemicals
Accompanied by rambling Mark Manson article that I shall chew on like gristle.
Any favorite parts of this article?
I'd wager Jared likes this song.
of course I like this song. =p
Wager won! ☺️
I totally baited Jared. :)
Well played, Geege.
I liked this part:
THE FRIENDSHIP TEST
One of the oldest pieces of relationship advice in the book is, “You and your partner should be best friends.” Most people look at that piece of advice in the positive: I should spend time with my partner like I do my best friend; I should communicate openly with my partner like I do with my best friend; I should have fun with my partner like I do with my best friend.
But people should also look at it in the negative: Would you tolerate your partner’s negative behaviors in your best friend?
Amazingly, when we ask ourselves this question honestly, in most unhealthy and codependent relationships, the answer is “no.”
I wouldn't make my best friend change her or his behavior.
It's not good to be in a relationship in which we expect the person to change.
I interpreted it this way instead:
It is not good to be in a relationship with someone who would not otherwise be your friend.