Avoidance May Lead to Increased Relationship Violence in Veterans
Tina Miller, MA,CFLE stashed this in peace skills
“Experiential avoidance (EA) is the attempt to avoid painful private events, such as negative emotional states,” said researchers from Minneapolis VA Medical Center and Duke University Medical Center. “Though EA is a common coping strategy, there is evidence that attempts to avoid uncomfortable emotions are often unsuccessful, with paradoxical effects.” Some research suggests that intimate partner violence (IPV) actually increases as a result of conflict avoidance. The researchers said, “Soldiers returning from Iraq and Afghanistan are at particularly high risk for problems and physical aggression in their intimate relationships.” These couples must redefine their relationship roles and manage the effects of the psychological trauma experienced by both partners during the deployment.
...and therefore avoidance is bad.