How to Find Happiness in Todayâ€™s Hectic World | TIME
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3) Be a chooser, not a picker
Picking from 100 options is a nightmare. So donâ€™t look at all the options. First, ask whatâ€™s important to you. Then choose the first one you see that has all those elements. Hereâ€™s Barry:
A better thing to do is just sit down and ask yourself what do I care about in a car and then, having articulated that, you go and buy the first car you see that satisfies your standards with respect to the things you care about.
You need constraints. Limitations. We think we always want freedom but thatâ€™s just not true.
What does the research say makes us happier than anything else?Â Strong relationships.
But relationships constrain us. You donâ€™t move to another city because your spouse doesnâ€™t want to go there. You donâ€™t take that fancy job because the hours would mean you wouldnâ€™t have time to see your friends or your kids.
Barry says what we often fail to realize is that those constraints are welcome. They make decisions easier. They make life simpler. They make it â€śnot your fault.â€ť And so they make us happier.