Brain Rules: marriage intervention
Tina Miller, MA,CFLE stashed this in marriage
What do his [Gottman's] interventions actually do? They drop both the frequency and severity of hostile interactions between husband and wife. This return to civility has many positive side effects besides marital reconstruction, especially if the couple has kids. The link is direct. These days, Gottman says, he can predict the quality of a relationship not only by examining the stress responses of the parents but also by taking a urine sample of their children.
Dropping hostile interactions is helpful no matter what.