Spend time with people you want to be like. Not only do your friends affect your behavior, so do their friends. And their friendsâ€™ friends
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
Tons of researchÂ (and common sense) shows that the people around you influence your behavior.Â
In fact, they influence it a lot more than you might think and probably more than youâ€™re comfortable with admitting.
But hereâ€™s the really crazy part: not only do your friends affect your behavior,Â so doÂ their friends. And theirÂ friendsâ€™ friends.Â Hereâ€™s Nicholas:
Across many different kinds of behavior: voting, cooperation, smoking, weight loss and weight gain, happiness, cooperative behavior, public health behaviors, we and others have been able to show that people are very meaningfully affected by the behaviors of other people to whom theyâ€™re connected. And hereâ€™s the kicker: they are also affected by the behaviors of people to whom theyâ€™reÂ notÂ directly connected. When your friendâ€™s friends quit smoking or your friendâ€™s friends friend become nicer and more cooperative, this ripples through the network and affects you. Similarly, when you make a positive change in your life, when you start running for example, or you participate in our democracy and you vote, it ripples outward from you and can affect dozens, hundreds, perhaps even thousands of other people.
So if youÂ spend time with different people, could youÂ become a different person? YES.Â
Want the laziest way to improve your life? The prescription is simpleâ€¦
1) Hang Around The People You Want To Be
We become like the people we spend time with. Choose wisely:
Here are the three main points of Eric's article:
- Hang out with the people you want to be: Behaviors spread like a virus. Make sure itâ€™s one you want to be infected with.
- Make more friends.Â Time spent making friends has a higher happiness ROI than time spent making money.
- Introduce friends to friends.Â Friends becoming happy increases your chance of happiness by 45%. Keeping the network happy protects you against unhappiness.
Wow! That is a powerful prescription for happiness
I don't know how powerful it is, but it's some good rules of thumb.Â