The Lazy Way to an Awesome Life: 3 Secrets Backed by Research | TIME
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Here’s what we can learn from Nicholas Christakis:
- Hang out with the people you want to be: Behaviors spread like a virus. Make sure it’s one you want to be infected with.
- Make more friends. Time spent making friends has a higher happiness ROI than time spent making money.
- Introduce friends to friends. Friends becoming happy increases your chance of happiness by 45%. Keeping the network happy protects you against unhappiness.
Other research Nicholas did turned up something truly heartwarming: friends are family. Quite literally. Here’s Nicholas:
We looked at the genetic similarity between friends and we found that on a very deep level you resemble your friends genetically. What this means is that, basically, your friends are kin that you choose. What we found in one of our papers was that, roughly speaking, your friends are something like your fourth cousin.
And one last thing: keep in mind that Nicholas’ research also gives you great power. And, as all good Spider-Man fans know, with “great power comes great responsibility.” Here’s Nicholas:
It’s very important for people to understand that when they make a positive change in their lives it doesn’t just affect them. It affects everyone they know and many of the people that those people know and many of the people that those people in turn know. If you make a positive change in your life it actually ripples through the social fabric and comes to benefit many other people. This recognition that we are all connected and that in our connectedness we affect each other’s lives I think is a very fundamental and moving observation of our humanity.
When you make a positive change in your life, it affects the people around you and ripples out to others.
So you can be lazy and see benefits by surrounding yourself with great people — but you can also choose to make strides in your life, even small ones, and contagiously pass those benefits to those you care about.
Making yourself a better person isn’t a gift you only give to yourself. It’s a gift you give to the world.