Avoiding Your Belief's Real Weak Points
Tina Miller, MA,CFLE stashed this in wisdom
To do better: When you're doubting one of your most cherished beliefs, close your eyes, empty your mind, grit your teeth, and deliberately think about whatever hurts the most. Don't rehearse standard objections whose standard counters would make you feel better. Ask yourself what smart people who disagree would say to your first reply, and your second reply. Whenever you catch yourself flinching away from an objection you fleetingly thought of, drag it out into the forefront of your mind. Punch yourself in the solar plexus. Stick a knife in your heart, and wiggle to widen the hole. In the face of the pain, rehearse only this:What is true is already so.Owning up to it doesn't make it worse.Not being open about it doesn't make it go away.And because it's true, it is what is there to be interacted with.Anything untrue isn't there to be lived.People can stand what is true,for they are already enduring it.—Eugene Gendlin
What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn't make it worse.