Use the Three P's to Defeat Your Inner Critic and Think Positively
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
If you’re the type who struggles with an overly critical inner voice, you can try to change your habits with the three P’s:
- Permanence: How long is this going to last? Is this really going to last forever, or is this a setback you can get past in a short time? For example, “I’m never going to be smart enough” vs. “I just haven’t learned that yet.”
- Pervasiveness: Is this problem universal? Is it an unavoidable law of the universe, or is it conditional? For example, “I’m incapable of being organized” vs “I need to practice being more structured.”
- Personal: Is the problem a fault with who you are, or is it a thing that just happens? For example, “I’m terrible at my job” vs. “Today sucked, but I know I can do better.”
These three areas are key to how we perceive ourselves. Your self-criticism can turn self-destructive if you focus on the wrong thing in any of these areas. Your problems may feel like they’re never going to change, like they’re universal, and like the fault lies solely with you. By soberly analyzing the truth in these three areas, and being honest with yourself about your strengths, you can talk more positively about yourself and stop dragging your own thoughts down.
Easier said than done.