5 Easy Ways To Improve Difficult Relationships, Backed By Research
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
Five ways to improve difficult relationships:
- Screw up: If you’ve been presenting too perfect an image, it’s time for karaoke.
- Show you care: Apologize for the rain if you have to. Crazy as it sounds, it works.
- Imitate the one you love: Take their perspective and turn into one of those cute old couples.
- Ask for advice: It flatters them and makes you look smarter, not dumber.
- When you apologize, promise to change: It makes a huge difference.
So what’s this advice really worth?
About $236,232 a year.
That’s what economists say a good social life and a happy marriage are worth in dollars.
So give these tips a shot. Being rich in relationships makes you pretty darn rich.
How you word your questions make a difference.
2) The Crazy Question That Shows You Care
Alison Brooks of Harvard had an assistant approach people at a train station on a rainy day. Half the time she asked people, “Can I borrow your phone? I need to make an important call.”
Only 9 percent of those people agreed to help.
But with the other people the assistant said, “I’m sorry about the rain! Can I borrow your phone? I need to make an important call.”
Yes, she apologized for the rain. Something she did not cause and had zero control over. The result?
47 percent of people helped her out. That’s a 400% increase. Similar results were achieved in many different situations.
Regardless of how superfluous the apology was, as long as it conveyed care and concern, it boosted perceptions of warmth and increased trust.
Research shows that just asking people, “Is this a good time to talk?” increased compliance with requests.
Little things that show you care matter — even if they’re utterly ridiculous.
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