Speak Your Unspoken Rules to Improve Your Relationships
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
If you don’t voice why you’re upset, your relationship is going to keep tripping over the same hurdles:
And I know what some of you may be thinking: “But ____ really should be obvious. They should know that. I shouldn’t have to say it.”
“Should” is a really problematic word. You’re saying the universe needs to bend to your will. Try the word “should” with the weather and let me know how that works.
What’s obvious to you is not always obvious to others. We can all have very different interpretations of the same things. It’s a lot better to make things clear than to assume that your needs are obvious and the other person is inherently evil.
But... isn't this basically the entire problem with heterosexual relationships in a nutshell?
Yes. Yes it is.