How to Make Your Relationship Last: 3 Secrets Backed by Research | TIME
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Here’s how to make love last:
- You’re A Terrible Mind Reader: Stop assuming you know why they did something wrong. You don’t. Want the answer? Ask.
- Rose-Colored Glasses Are Good: If you’re going to try to read minds, assume the best. Otherwise, why the heck are you with this person?
- No Unspoken Rules: They can’t read minds either. Stop thinking “it’s obvious.” If it was obvious, you would not have this problem.
- Symbolic Meanings Confuse People: To you “being late” means “you don’t love me.” To them “being late” means “being late.” Clarify your interpretation or they’ll think you’re insane.
You’re not a bad person. And neither are they. It’s often just a misunderstanding. So treat it that way.
The secret to that crazy love is often just wearing those rose-colored glasses: believing your partner is the best and that they want the best for you. As J.D. Salinger once said:
I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.