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WHEN the news broke about the Petraeus affair, my first thought was: β€œHere we go again. Another married man caught sleeping with a younger woman.” My second thought had more personal resonance: β€œI wonder what will happen to his marriage?”

A more interesting question for me is "What will happen with Holly Patraeus?Β  Will she take the blinders off?"

<3. Admit that you like the deceit. Come on, it's a

high. Playing hooky is a lot more fun than getting a day off from

school. Everyone there in the classroom, playing by the rules, listening

to a boring lecture on the Continental Congress, while you smoke dope

behind the bleachers. Renegade! The secrecy and lies are what gives the

frisson of danger to your affair and makes it so delicious. Otherwise

you would have an open marriage, same rules for everyone. But no, the power imbalance

is what you're after.Β  You enjoy a position of advantage over your

trusting partner. They're at home, devoting their energies to you and

your home life, faithful to the wonderfulness that is you. Sweet gig you

got there -- and you know it.>

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tracy-schorn/a-public-service-announce_b_2138732.html

He was the head of the CIA. Of course he liked deceit.

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