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Technology Provides an Alternative to Love. - NYTimes.com

Which is what love will do to a person. Because the fundamental fact about all of us is that we’re alive for a while but will die before long. This fact is the real root cause of all our anger and pain and despair. And you can either run from this fact or, by way of love, you can embrace it.

When you stay in your room and rage or sneer or shrug your shoulders, as I did for many years, the world and its problems are impossibly daunting. But when you go out and put yourself in real relation to real people, or even just real animals, there’s a very real danger that you might love some of them.

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4:44 PM Jun 25 2012

The prospect of pain makes it tempting to avoid love. Don't avoid love.

Love people and use things.

Don't use people and love things.

Easy to say. Hard to do.

5:25 PM Jun 25 2012

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"The simple fact of the matter is that trying to be perfectly likable is incompatible with loving relationships. Sooner or later, for example, you’re going to find yourself in a hideous, screaming fight, and you’ll hear coming out of your mouth things that you yourself don’t like at all, things that shatter your self-image as a fair, kind, cool, attractive, in-control, funny, likable person. Something realer than likability has come out in you, and suddenly you’re having an actual life."

4:36 PM Jun 26 2012

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LIKE is incompatible with LOVE.

That's profound.

12:10 AM Jun 27 2012

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I think many in silicon valley like each other, like people, and like users.

Love is very much not part of the equation.

I just came back from putting myself into relation with real people.

So refreshing; all problems fade away. Rest. Cease. Persist.

Wherever you are, be all there.

1:13 AM Jul 07 2012

6:47 PM Jul 17 2012

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