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The End of Courtship NYTimes com


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Dating + tech does't mix, or does it?

Personally, I think it's really all a matter of you sticking to your guns to get what you want.

It's complicated.

Hookups may be fine for college students, but what about after, when they start to build an adult life? The problem is that “young people today don’t know how to get out of hookup culture,” Ms. Freitas said. In interviews with students, many graduating seniors did not know the first thing about the basic mechanics of a traditional date. “They’re wondering, ‘If you like someone, how would you walk up to them? What would you say? What words would you use?’ ” Ms. Freitas said.

Once you're in a mindset it's hard to change that mindset.

This is what the HBO Show "Girls" is about.

I haven't seen "Girls" but from what I've heard about it, it doesn't sound like a show I'd be interested in :-/

I feel like "Once you're in that mindset it's hard to change that mindset" is generally what's true about how relationships work. The mindset of my married friends is different than that of my married + kids friends, is different from the mindset of my divorced friends and my determined to be perpetually single friends. Making something stick is more or less about accurately reading what a particular person's mindset happens to be at that moment, and determining how long that jibes with your own mindset.

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