THERE'S MORE TO CONNECTING PEOPLE THAN EXTENDING AN INVITATION. GREAT CONNECTORS ARE ALWAYS LOOKING TO DO A FAVOR, BRING PEOPLE TOGETHER, AND EXPAND THEIR OWN "RELATIONSHIP CAPITAL.

And relationships are progressions that get deeper little by little over time.

THEY HAVE AN ABUNDANCE MENTALITY:

Even with this care, Alboher and other connectors try to bring people together more often than not. They know that bringing two people together makes them both like you more. Sometimes they have good reasons to like you more.

Margulis recently introduced a writer to a literary agent and they went on to get a seven-figure book contract together. She honestly basks in the joy of this, rather than succumbing to the jealousy plenty of other people would feel.

“You know how your worst fear in junior high is that if you introduce your friends to each other they’ll realize they like each other better than they like you and you’ll be left out? I don’t ever feel that way,” Margulis says. Connectors just fundamentally get a big chunk of their happiness from bringing people together. That’s why they’re connectors.