What You Talk About Is Sexy

Random conversation with someone you’re interested in can be a bad idea. Why? What you talk about can matter — a lot.

Emotional, personal information exchange promotes powerful feelings of connection.

Via Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You:

Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, is interested in how people form romantic relationships, and he’s come up with an ingenious way of taking men and women who have never met before and making them feel close to one another. Given that he has just an hour or so to create the intimacy levels that typically take weeks, months, or years to form, he accelerated the getting-to-know-you process through a set of thirty-six questions crafted to take the participants rapidly from level one in McAdams’s system to level two.

How effective is it? In under an hour it can create a connection stronger than a lifelong friendship.

Via Click: The Magic of Instant Connections:

What he found was striking. The intensity of the dialogue partners’ bond at the end of the forty-five-minute vulnerability interaction was rated as closer than the closest relationship in the lives of 30 percent of similar students. In other words, the instant connections were more powerful than many long-term, even lifelong relationships.

You can read the most effective things to discuss here.

That said, don’t get so nervous about your words that you can’t speak…

When a woman is very attracted to a man, whether his pickup line is good or not doesn’t matter at all.

Also worth reading: http://www.bakadesuyo.com/is-there-a-shortcut-to-bonding-with-a-romanti

I thought it would boil down to Charisma and Confidence, but I couldn't find one that fit under confidence?

Charisma:

Being Liked Is Sexy

Personality Is Sexy

How They Make You Feel Is Sexy

Confidence: