How to Have a Great Relationship â€” 5 New Secrets From Research | TIME
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
4 Things That Really Improve Relationships:
Like Arthur said above: itâ€™s not usually the match, itâ€™s usually one of the people in the relationship.
So if you have personal issues like depression, anger or insecurity, get help.Fixing you is the best step toward a better relationship.
First, look at your own life. Are you anxious, depressed, or insecure? Did you have a really difficult childhood? If so, do something. That would be number one.
Early on you did cool things together but now itâ€™s just Netflix and pizza on the couch. Every. Single. Night.
What to do?Â Just like the recommendation for a good first date: Itâ€™s aboutÂ excitement.
After a while, things are sort of settled and there isnâ€™t much excitement, so what can you do? Do things that are exciting that you associate with your partner. Reinvigorate that excitement and the main way to make them associated with the partner is to do them with your partner.
Whatâ€™s the third most important thing for keeping love alive? â€śCapitalizationâ€ť is vital. (No, I donâ€™t mean using bigger letters.)
Celebrate your partnerâ€™s successes. Be their biggest fan.
How a couple celebrates the good timesÂ is more importantÂ than how they deal with the bad times.
Not acting impressed by your partnerâ€™s achievements? Congratulations, youâ€™re killing your relationship.
Celebrating your partnerâ€™s successes turns out to be pretty important. When things go badly and you provide support, it doesnâ€™t make the relationship good, but it keeps it from getting bad. Whereas if things are going okay and your partner has something good happen and you celebrate it sincerely, youâ€™re doing something that can make a relationship even better.
The fourth thing Arthur mentioned was gratitude. And not only does it help relationships, itâ€™s one of theÂ keys to a happy life.
Whatâ€™s the research say? Canâ€™t be more clearÂ than this:
â€¦the more a person is inclined to gratitude, the less likely he or she is to be depressed, anxious, lonely, envious, or neurotic.