On Marrying the Wrong Person | The Book of Life
Stephen Williams stashed this in Happiness
How do the errors happen? With appalling ease and regularity. Given that marrying the wrong person is about the single easiest and also costliest mistake any of us can make (and one which places an enormous burden on the state, employers and the next generation), it is extraordinary, and almost criminal, that the issue of marrying intelligently is not more systematically addressed at a national and personal level, as road safety or smoking are.
It’s all the sadder because in truth, the reasons why people make the wrong choices are easy to lay out and unsurprising in their structure. They tend to fall into some of the following basic categories.
One: We don’t understand ourselves
Two: We don’t understand other people
Three: We aren’t used to being happy
Four: Being single is so awful
Five: Instinct has too much prestige
Six: We don’t go to Schools of Love
Seven: We want to freeze happiness
Eight: We believe we are special
Nine: We want to stop thinking about Love
Yes, why is marriage something not more systematically addressed?
IMHO - it's not marriage which is systematically ignored but relationships. We inherit our relationship perspectives from our parents and then get an additional set of impositions from the culture we live in. We have to be very ornery to go out side those bounds and explore other perspectives. This is some core cultural stuff which people rarely question. From my experience, when you go down this road - friends and family will have some words to say.
Yeah, it's tough because everyone has an opinion.