How to Help Others the Right Way | TIME
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
How to be a winner-giver, not a loser-giver!
Definitely. These are good rules of thumb:
- To be happier and healthier you need to give to others.
- Don’t be a martyr. Constant selfless giving is not the answer.
- 100 hrs a year is the minimum to increase happiness, so do about 2 hrs per week or a little more.
- You need to do it because you want to, so find a way to help others that is meaningful to you.
- It’s better to cluster those activities than to spread them out.
Some super principles from Give and Take. Thanks for stirring memories :-) :-)
It's easier to read these tips than it is to act on these tips.
Want to be happier? Do all your giving one day a week.
Via Adam Grant's Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success:
The chunkers achieved gains in happiness; the sprinklers didn’t. Happiness increased when people performed all five giving acts in a single day, rather than doing one a day. Lyubomirsky and colleagues speculate that “spreading them over the course of a week might have diminished salience and power or made them less distinguishable from participants habitual kind of behavior.”
And this is exactly why selfless givers end up stressed out and overloaded.
…selfless givers are more inclined to sprinkle their giving throughout their days, helping whenever people need them. This can become highly distracting and exhausting, robbing selfless givers of their attention and energy necessary to complete their own work.