Interestingly enough, each is some combination of lying to yourself.

 all 5 = be more zen

Paul Graham's essay on the subject gave me a different perspective.

It's more about taking an active role in one's own life.

Working too much and not spending enough time with friends are not deceptions.

 That's not very Zen. The reasons why you work too much and not spend enough time keeping up with friends could very well fall into the self-deception category.  I.e. you are doing it for them instead of your own drive to accomplish, etc.

I see your point.

The key with work is to get the important, highest impact, highest value added things done.

Not to work as many hours as possible.

Work smarter, not longer.

That's true professionally, and it's true for friendships too.