wait but why: Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy
Adam Rifkin stashed this in #happiness
Facebook image crafting makes people unhappy:
Lucy, on the other hand, finds herself constantly taunted by a modern phenomenon: Facebook Image Crafting.
Social media creates a world for Lucy where A) what everyone else is doing is very out in the open, B) most people present an inflated version of their own existence, and C) the people who chime in the most about their careers are usually those whose careers (or relationships) are going the best, while struggling people tend not to broadcast their situation. This leaves Lucy feeling, incorrectly, like everyone else is doing really well, only adding to her misery.
So that's why Lucy is unhappy, or at the least, feeling a bit frustrated and inadequate. In fact, she's probably started off her career perfectly well, but to her, it feels very disappointing.
Here's my advice for Lucy:
1) Stay wildly ambitious. The current world is bubbling with opportunity for an ambitious person to find flowery, fulfilling success. The specific direction may be unclear, but it'll work itself out—just dive in somewhere.
2) Stop thinking that you're special. The fact is, right now, you're not special. You're another completely inexperienced young person who doesn't have all that much to offer yet. You can become special by working really hard for a long time.
3) Ignore everyone else. Other people's grass seeming greener is no new concept, but in today's image crafting world, other people's grass looks like a glorious meadow. The truth is that everyone else is just as indecisive, self-doubting, and frustrated as you are, and if you just do your thing, you'll never have any reason to envy others.
While I enjoy and agree with the general theme of this article, I find the ending points #2 and #3 are horrible and contradictory. I would think that Buddha's message on life. "In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." http://pandawhale.com/post/27493/in-the-end-only-three-things-matter-how-much-you-loved-how-gently-you-lived-and-how-gracefully-you-let-go-of-things-not-meant-for-you
Thank you for that Buddha message. I appreciated reading it again.
Image crafting! I like this term. It reveals how we edit our pages. If only we edited our lives too.