5 Things That Make Love Last | TIME
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
#1: Fondness and Admiration
Happy couples tell their tales with warmth, affection, and respect for each other… Spontaneous compliments are common…couples with a weak fondness and admiration system tend to recall unfavorable first impressions of their partner.
#4: Glorifying Your Struggles
Couples who describe their relationship history as chaotic are usually unhappy in the present. They don’t tell stories of pulling together or learning from their negative experiences. There’s no sense in their descriptions that their past troubles and conflicts strengthened their mutual trust... happy couples express pride over having survived difficult times. They glorify the struggle by emphasizing how it strengthened their commitment. They believe they steered their own course together, based on their common goals, aspirations, and values. They have built a system of shared meaning and purpose. Whether couples display this positive energy when recalling past hardships is not at all dependent on the depth of the difficulties they faced. How they interpret the negative and positive events is the key.