How to Get Respect: 5 Points Backed by Science | TIME
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
5) How To Get Respect
You don’t need to strut around like a jerk but we can learn something from powerful people: confidence is vital.
People love confidence so much that we sometimes prefer those who talk a good game over those who produce quantifiable results.
But be warm.
Changing yourself is not inauthentic. Part of what people do is they change. They evolve, they can grow, and they can change themselves.
So what it is to be authentic? It doesn’t mean you can’t change, but it does mean that the changes that you make, again, have to be aligned with the sense of who you really are, and who you want to be.
In fact, research shows that when you try to be your best self, you end up presenting your true self:
In sum, positive self-presentation facilitates more accurate impressions, indicating that putting one’s best self forward helps reveal one’s true self.
so "fake it till you make it" is fine advice!
Yes, or better yet: practice being the version of you that you want to be.
And in so doing, you become more like that person.