The science of how touch makes us happier
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
Here's what we learned about the power of touch:
- Affection makes you successful: Kisses before work can add five years to your life and 30 percent to your paycheck. (Kisses atw ork lead to lawsuits.)
- Hugs really do make you happy: Eight glasses of water a day doesn't make you healthy; it only makes you pee more. But eight hugs a day do make you happier. Smile more, pee less.
- Massage strengthens relationships: And they help prevent wrinkles. Botox is expensive. Massages are free.
Okay, that's a lot of formal science about the most informal of subjects. But what happens if you listen to all these cold, clinical studies? You'll be considered a warmer person. That's nice, right?
No — it's awesome. When people perceive you as warm they also see you as having a ton of other wonderful traits. But most of all, they trust you more.
The person described as warm was more often rated as generous, sociable, and humane, while the cold person was viewed as ungenerous, unsociable, and ruthless… perceiving someone as warm indicates a specific constellation of traits: helpfulness, friendliness, and, most important, trustworthiness.
I'd give you a hug right now if I could, but I can't. So instead… I'll give you homework:
Try that Penn State experiment yourself: Give or get five hugs a day.
They can be from anyone. Can you do it for a month?
Remember, people reach for their phone 85 times a day. Maybe try reaching for a hug instead?