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What's the secret to working with difficult people?

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Oh man, the part about dealing with narcissists is gold!

First, Suck Up. There is no way around this. If you want to communicate effectively with narcissists, you have to admire them, their achievements, and their toys as much as they do. Typically, this won’t require any great effort. They’ll be more than happy to come up with reasons to congratulate themselves. All you have to do is listen and look interested. If not sucking up is a matter of principle with you, you will have to live with the consequences, namely being invisible to most of the people who can help your career along. The choice is yours.

Once you've sucked up, you can start getting what you want. Here's how:

The part about dealing with bullies is also excellent.

Ask Yourself, “Why Am I Still Here?” No one deserves to be treated like chattel. To keep your sanity when you work for a bully, you need to look into your own heart to find the reason you stay, and that reason is what you need to hold on to. If it’s for money or power, or because it’s a necessary step in your career, go for it. In the dark times, that’s what you will need to remind yourself. If the only reason you’re staying is that you’re afraid to look for another job, it’s time to go. Your own fear will do you more damage than any bully ever could.

Once you've figured out your motivation, then you can figure out what to do about it:

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