The 11 things that make someone fall in love with you:
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
Of the 11 things that make people fall in love, this one seems by far the most important:
Readiness for a romantic relationship
If the person isn't ready, forget about it. Not going to happen
I really liked this part of the article:
People who have a high frequency of love experiences tend to have high self-confidence and low defensiveness… Insecure people who do not have a coherent sense of self and who are not self-actualized tend toward a game-playng style of love and have relationships with low levels of intimacy and high levels of conflict… A study that compared the levels of people’s self-identity to the levels of intimacy in their relationships showed that Erikson was right. The stronger people’s sense of self, the higher their ability to be intimate.
Get your inside straight and the outside might take better care of itself.
The key is separating confidence from narcissism.