#1 is spot-on:

1) Take 100% responsibility for the relationship.

Don’t expect your boss to change. You adapt to them; they’re not going to adapt to you.

If there’s a problem between you two, you need to fix it. Always.

In Managing for the Future business guru Pete Drucker explains:

The subordinate’s job is not to reform the boss, not to reeducate the boss, not to make the boss confirm to what the business schools and the management books say bosses should be like… Does this individual need the information to be there when he gets to the office in the morning, or does this boss (as do a good many operating people) want it at the end of the day, say around 3:30 on Friday afternoon?

But that's just getting started!

Here's 9 other great tips: http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/11/get-a-raise/

I threw up in my mouth just a little reading this...mostly because I have a knee-jerk reaction to stroking egos...but all my clients are my bosses. Frankly the customers they serve also have "boss power". 

As I continued to read I saw these as powerful ways to serve and a good way to get over yourself.

It is unfortunate how many clients / bosses like their egos stroked.

I guess it serves a basic human need.