How to Make People Like You: 6 Science-Based Conversation Hacks | TIME.com
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
1) Encourage people to talk about themselves
Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money, researchers reported Monday…
“Self-disclosure is extra rewarding,” said Harvard neuroscientist Diana Tamir, who conducted the experiments with Harvard colleague Jason Mitchell. Their findings were published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. “People were even willing to forgo money in order to talk about themselves,” Ms. Tamir said.
"But enough of me. Let's talk about you. What do you think of me?"
4) The Two-Question Technique
Ask them about something positive in their life. Only after they reply should you ask them how they’re feeling about life in general.
Sounds silly but this method is based on research by Nobel Prize winning psychologist, Daniel Kahneman.
A positive answer on the first question will lead to them feeling more positive about their life in general when you ask the second question.
The same pattern is found if a question about the students’ relations with their parents or about their finances immediately precedes the question about general happiness. In both cases, satisfaction in the particular domain dominates happiness reports. Any emotionally significant question that alters a person’s mood will have the same effect.
More on this powerful technique here.
5) Repeat The Last Three Words
I’ve posted before about the incredible power of active listening and how hostage negotiators use it to build rapport.