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Kevin geyer Pittsburgh

The boy in that casket was 18 years old and a good kid that did his best under horrible circumstances. 

I was one of his teachers in a program for children with behavior and learning difficulties when he was around 11 and 12 years old. He was a sensitive boy that that was neglected by his parents and abused by teenage relatives until he went to live with his aunt. He made it through high school and a few months after graduation was shot in the back at a bus stop and died. 

I have treated many female victims of sexual and physical abuse. I also have treated many males. 

Do you know who I cannot treat? 

The ones that were killed. 

80% of all murder victims are male. 

There are over 2 million men in prison. 

Men and women are not treated equally, but that does not mean that one group suffers more than the other, or that one group is to blame for the suffering. The privileged suffer in their richness and the oppressed suffer in their poverty. 

More people died in Chicago last week than at UCSB but what creates a twitter movement? An attack on sororities.  The children of Newtown or the moviegoers in Colorado ....all fade. 

Nobody ever heard of my former student Kevin in the first place. 

The hash tag bullies say if I disagree with the twitter venting I am part of the problem. 

No I worked for 20 years in healthcare and with many victims of trauma.  I am so burnt out from the suffering.  Every shooting I replay walking a 8 year old boy to the Boys and Girl's club from his house that smelled of weed and crack.  I had a sick feeling so we turned around and within a minute a hail of gunfire killed a teen a block from where we stood. 

I am not working now and staying at home with our three children (6, 3, 4 months).  Their mother is researching military PTSD programs and has more work than she can handle. I pray everyday to keep our daughters and son safe in this violent world. 

We are all in this as brothers and sisters. 

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We are all in this.

I agree with you that the Twitter slacktivism hashtag crowd is like an uncontrollable mob that cannot be reasoned with.

Why do people in our society turn on ourselves? Is it the consequence of living in a culture of fear?

Because we believe in dualistic eternalism. 

I am good I go to heaven forever.   I am bad there is nothing to do, no upside so fuck it.  I am dead, I am dead and there is no next ....

Those that understand there is no beginning or end to this life think more deeply about their behavior.  

A huge Forrest of good deeds can take eons to grow but burn in a single flash of anger. 

Your life can be destroyed in an instant. People do not understand how precious it is and how hard they worked to get to even the most difficult life. 

All violence is caused by not understanding what it means to be human. If you understand you cannot be violent and hopefully can avoid it. 


I wish people would just read the facts of the ACE study. 

The abuse is not gendered the result has gender differences.


We assessed 12-month prevalence and incidence data on sexual victimization in 5 federal surveys that the Bureau of Justice Statistics, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and the Federal Bureau of Investigation conducted independently in 2010 through 2012. We used these data to examine the prevailing assumption that men rarely experience sexual victimization. We concluded that federal surveys detect a high prevalence of sexual victimization among men—in many circumstances similar to the prevalence found among women. We identified factors that perpetuate misperceptions about men’s sexual victimization: reliance on traditional gender stereotypes, outdated and inconsistent definitions, and methodological sampling biases that exclude inmates. We recommend changes that move beyond regressive gender assumptions, which can harm both women and men.

"All violence is caused by not understanding what it means to be human."

Many people in the world do not understand what it means to be human.

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