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Children โ€” (if it Please God) โ€” Constant companion, (& friend in old age) who will feel interested in one, โ€” object to be beloved & played with. โ€” better than a dog anyhow.โ€“ Home, & someone to take care of house โ€” Charms of music & female chit-chat. โ€” These things good for oneโ€™s health. โ€” but terrible loss of time. โ€“

My God, it is intolerable to think of spending oneโ€™s whole life, like a neuter bee, working, working, & nothing after all. โ€” No, no wonโ€™t do. โ€” Imagine living all oneโ€™s day solitarily in smoky dirty London House. โ€” Only picture to yourself a nice soft wife on a sofa with good fire, & books & music perhaps โ€” Compare this vision with the dingy reality of Grt. Marlbroโ€™ St.

Not Marry

Freedom to go where one liked โ€” choice of Society & little of it. โ€” Conversation of clever men at clubs โ€” Not forced to visit relatives, & to bend in every trifle. โ€” to have the expense & anxiety of children โ€” perhaps quarelling โ€” Loss of time. โ€” cannot read in the Evenings โ€” fatness & idleness โ€” Anxiety & responsibility โ€” less money for books &c โ€” if many children forced to gain oneโ€™s bread. โ€” (But then it is very bad for ones health[19] to work too much)

Perhaps my wife wont like London; then the sentence is banishment & degradation into indolent, idle fool โ€“

He then produces his conclusion:

Marry โ€” Mary โ€” Marry Q.E.D.

Better than a dog anyhow, afterall.

Wow, what a jerk Darwin was.

He never mentions love, nor does he mention partnership.

Makes you wonder what sort of husband he was! ย  I wonder what his wife's list would have looked like? ย  (Then again, given the times, her expectations would be a tad different from mine)!

Different from mine too.

I wonder if she thought of him as a fat bald jerk who calls her soft.

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I see the resemblance!

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I think the idea of "partnership" is a modern one but he hints at what is similar with constant companion. And soft was compliment, back then, yes?ย 

Hopefully, but I find it hard to believe that chit-chat was considered complimentary.ย 

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