Marry

Children — (if it Please God) — Constant companion, (& friend in old age) who will feel interested in one, — object to be beloved & played with. — better than a dog anyhow.– Home, & someone to take care of house — Charms of music & female chit-chat. — These things good for one’s health. — but terrible loss of time. –

My God, it is intolerable to think of spending one’s whole life, like a neuter bee, working, working, & nothing after all. — No, no won’t do. — Imagine living all one’s day solitarily in smoky dirty London House. — Only picture to yourself a nice soft wife on a sofa with good fire, & books & music perhaps — Compare this vision with the dingy reality of Grt. Marlbro’ St.

Not Marry

Freedom to go where one liked — choice of Society & little of it. — Conversation of clever men at clubs — Not forced to visit relatives, & to bend in every trifle. — to have the expense & anxiety of children — perhaps quarelling — Loss of time. — cannot read in the Evenings — fatness & idleness — Anxiety & responsibility — less money for books &c — if many children forced to gain one’s bread. — (But then it is very bad for ones health[19] to work too much)

Perhaps my wife wont like London; then the sentence is banishment & degradation into indolent, idle fool –

He then produces his conclusion:

Marry — Mary — Marry Q.E.D.

Better than a dog anyhow, afterall.

Wow, what a jerk Darwin was.

He never mentions love, nor does he mention partnership.

Makes you wonder what sort of husband he was!   I wonder what his wife's list would have looked like?   (Then again, given the times, her expectations would be a tad different from mine)!

Different from mine too.

I wonder if she thought of him as a fat bald jerk who calls her soft.

I see the resemblance!

I think the idea of "partnership" is a modern one but he hints at what is similar with constant companion. And soft was compliment, back then, yes? 

Hopefully, but I find it hard to believe that chit-chat was considered complimentary.