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Children β€” (if it Please God) β€” Constant companion, (& friend in old age) who will feel interested in one, β€” object to be beloved & played with. β€” better than a dog anyhow.– Home, & someone to take care of house β€” Charms of music & female chit-chat. β€” These things good for one’s health. β€” but terrible loss of time. –

My God, it is intolerable to think of spending one’s whole life, like a neuter bee, working, working, & nothing after all. β€” No, no won’t do. β€” Imagine living all one’s day solitarily in smoky dirty London House. β€” Only picture to yourself a nice soft wife on a sofa with good fire, & books & music perhaps β€” Compare this vision with the dingy reality of Grt. Marlbro’ St.

Not Marry

Freedom to go where one liked β€” choice of Society & little of it. β€” Conversation of clever men at clubs β€” Not forced to visit relatives, & to bend in every trifle. β€” to have the expense & anxiety of children β€” perhaps quarelling β€” Loss of time. β€” cannot read in the Evenings β€” fatness & idleness β€” Anxiety & responsibility β€” less money for books &c β€” if many children forced to gain one’s bread. β€” (But then it is very bad for ones health[19] to work too much)

Perhaps my wife wont like London; then the sentence is banishment & degradation into indolent, idle fool –

He then produces his conclusion:

Marry β€” Mary β€” Marry Q.E.D.

Better than a dog anyhow, afterall.

Wow, what a jerk Darwin was.

He never mentions love, nor does he mention partnership.

Makes you wonder what sort of husband he was! Β  I wonder what his wife's list would have looked like? Β  (Then again, given the times, her expectations would be a tad different from mine)!

Different from mine too.

I wonder if she thought of him as a fat bald jerk who calls her soft.

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I see the resemblance!

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I think the idea of "partnership" is a modern one but he hints at what is similar with constant companion. And soft was compliment, back then, yes?Β 

Hopefully, but I find it hard to believe that chit-chat was considered complimentary.Β 

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