5 Ways to Strengthen Your Friendships | TIME
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Want to improve any relationship?
The first step is try. Yeah, so easy you forgot to do it.
Simple things can have the most profound impact, like actively showing interest in the other person. Listen to what they have to say and ask them to tell you more.
It is engaged, enthusiastic, curious and has supportive nonverbal action. Ask questions. Be excited. Ask for details. Smile. Touch. Laugh.
Share your own good news when you have some:
…sharing good news with others increases the perceived value of those events, especially when others respond enthusiastically, and that enthusiastic responses to shared good news promote the development of trust and a prosocial orientation toward the other. These studies found consistent support for these effects across both interactions with strangers and in everyday close relationships.
Show gratitude. Gratitude is a miracle drug:
- It will make you happier.
- It will improve your relationships.
- It can make you a better person.
- It can make life better for everyone around you.
Stay in touch. Communicating every two weeks keeps friendships alive:
…“the leading cause of persistent relationships is reciprocity — returning a friend’s call.” Further, they said friends ’til the end tend to touch base at least once every 15 days.
Leverage technology to improve your relationships, don’t let it replace them.
Harvard happiness expert Daniel Gilbert identified friends as one of the biggest sources of joy in our lives. Seeing friends and family regularly is worth an extra $97,265 a year:
So, an individual who only sees his or her friends or relatives less than once a month to never at all would require around an extra £63,000 a year to be just as satisfied with life as an individual who sees his or her friends or relatives on most days.
Not feeling socially connected can make you stupider and kill you. Loneliness can lead to heart attack, stroke and diabetes. Good relationships are more important to a long life than exercise.
Not spending more time with friends and family is one of the things people regret the most.