Here's how to use writing to overcome the things that upset you:

1. Has enough time passed? Are you suffering longer than you should? Then writing can help.
2. Commit to four days of 20 minutes a day. Most people write at the end of their workday.
3. Write nonstop for 20 minutes about what's bothering you.Don'try about errors or what anyone might think. This is for you.
4. Tying in other areas of your life, acknowledging emotions, telling a story, switching perspectives and making it personal are all associated with better recovery.

You don't need to wait until you're getting divorced or somebody dies to use this. You can write whenever you think it might help. It's literary ibuprofen.