Most Common Relationship Problems - Business Insider
Eric Barker stashed this in Diabolical Plans For World Domination
So here's what John had to say:
- The four things that kill relationships: Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling.
- The three things that prevent them: Know your partner, respond positively to "bids", and admire your partner.
- The best predictor of relationship success is how you and your partner tell your "story of us."
- The beginning of the conversation is crucial. Negativity compounds. Keep a cool head and resist emotional inertia.
One last thing that really blew me away: what makes for happy relationships sounds a lot like what makes for happiness in general.
Research shows, happy people seek out the positive and are grateful for it. Unhappy people find the negative in everything.
There's a very similar dynamic in relationships: Masters scan their relationship for good things, disasters are always noting the bad.