5 ways to be more charismatic, by Eric Barker
Adam Rifkin stashed this in Leadership!
Wharton School business professor Robert House notes that charismatic leaders “cause followers to become highly committed to the leader’s mission, to make significant personal sacrifices, and to perform above and beyond the call of duty.”
The five techniques below are from: http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/02/checklist-5-charismatic/
This is true. I always think back to a job I had that was not for me. My boss, though, was a true leader. He could have asked me to go to Jersey for a police report on a closed file, and I'd have done it Friday at rush hour (working in insurance in CT at the time). True leaders master the art of inspiring you do accomplish, love, or do anything.
That's the good side of influence.
1. Deepen your voice. Speak slowly. Pause. And smile.
"There’s only one thing you need to do in order to project more warmth in your voice: smile. Smiling affects how we speak to such an extent that listeners in one study could identify sixteen different kinds of smiles based on sound alone. This is why it’s worth smiling even when on the phone."
2. Use imagery in your words.
"The high imagery speech resulted in higher ratings of charisma than the low imagery speech."
3. Use consistent tone.
"The consistency of one’s emphasis and timing is an honest signal of a focused and smoothly functioning mind. When we looked at salary negotiations with the sociometer, we found these same patterns. That is, the more consistent people were in their pattern of emphasis, the better they did in the salary negotiation. This was true for both the boss and the new employee-showing variability weakens your negotiation stance. We found the same to be true for business executives pitching business plans. The more consistent they were in emphasis and rhythm while giving their pitch, the more convincing they were to others. That was not the only benefit; people with greater consistency were also perceived as having better ideas and a better presentation style."
4. Convey emotion in your face and body language.
"When we interact with other humans via communication channels that are stripped of facial expressions and gestures and laughter, we are unwittingly simulating the blank emotional radar of the mindblind… The lesson here is twofold.First, certain social settings— particularly those that involve virtual communication— may artificially dampen laughter that would otherwise be generated in a face-to-face encounter. Second, social interaction without laughter produces modified brain chemistry, which affects both your background impression of the exchange— its emotional color— and the resulting trace memories the exchange leaves in your head. Putting smiley faces into email to supplement the lack of verbal intonation helps convey when you’re trying to be funny, but because the recipient of your message is still alone when reading it, she won’t be likely to laugh out loud, and that suppressed laughter will make a difference. The memory will be happier— and consequently stronger— if she laughs."
- framing through metaphor-stories and anecdotes
- demonstrating moral conviction
- sharing the sentiments of the collective
- setting high expectations
- communicating confidence
- using rhetorical devices such as contrasts, lists, and rhetorical questions together with non-verbal tactics such as body gesture, facial expression, and animated voice tone.
An occasional Cigarette will give a man sophistication, confidence, masculinity & charisma !
You don't even have to light it. Just dangle it from your mouth like James Bond above.