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Grant Study Reveals What Makes Us Happy

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‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’ ”

"Love is Chemicals"  

Geege, that may be true, but I had to look at the context of Jared's quote:

But the factor Vaillant returns to most insistently is the powerful correlation between the warmth of your relationships and your health and happiness in old age. After The Atlantic’s 2009 article was published, critics questioned the strength of this correlation. Vaillant revisited the data he had been studying since the 1960s for his book, an experience that further convinced him that what matters most in life are relationships.

For instance, the 58 men who scored highest on measurements of “warm relationships” earned an average of $141,000 a year more at their peak salaries (usually between ages 55 and 60) than the 31 men who scored lowest; the former were also three times more likely to have achieved professional success worthy of inclusion in Who’s Who.

And, in a conclusion that surely would have pleased Freud, the findings suggest that the warmth of your relationship with Mommy matters long into adulthood. Specifically:

  • Men who had “warm” childhood relationships with their mothers earned an average of $87,000 more a year than men whose mothers were uncaring.
  • Men who had poor childhood relationships with their mothers were much more likely to develop dementia when old.
  • Late in their professional lives, the men’s boyhood relationships with their mothers—but not with their fathers—were associated with effectiveness at work.
  • On the other hand, warm childhood relations with fathers correlated with lower rates of adult anxiety, greater enjoyment of vacations, and increased “life satisfaction” at age 75—whereas the warmth of childhood relationships with mothers had no significant bearing on life satisfaction at 75.

Vaillant’s key takeaway, in his own words: “The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points … to a straightforward five-word conclusion: ‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’ ”

In all seriousness, sincerity and warmth in relationships matters.

For health and happiness.

"Men who had poor childhood relationships with their mothers were much more likely to develop dementia when old."

Love IS chemicals, but not limited to dopamine?

I think that's right.

If we could replace humans with dopamine simulations, there would be no need for us.

blade runner

Exactly right, Jared!

Happy life correlates highly with a loving childhood:

Revisiting this. We ARE more than nature. We are nurture, too.

surroundings matter. 

Yes. Context matters.

so the question becomes, is working toward producing a great childhood for every child the ultimate goal?

It's certainly a worthwhile goal.

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