It's not where you are, it's where your head is.

Your happiness is determined by your thoughts, and if you're not focused on your surroundings and what you're doing, they don't matter.

As Matthew Killingsworth and Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, explained in the Harvard Gazette: "how often our minds leave the present and where they tend to go is a better predictor of our happiness than the activities in which we are engaged."

Or, as Buddha said:

We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

So lately I've been a little less focused on changing where I'm at and more focused on where my thoughts are at.

There's plenty of good research backing this up:

- Focusing on the positive increases happiness.

- Quantity of positive thoughts is more important than quality.

- Old  people are happy because they remember the good and forget the bad.

I've stopped having arguments in my head. I ask, "Is this really going to improve the situation? Is it making me happier?" If both answers are no, I stop.

And it works.